He Genuinely Doesn’t Give a Sh*t (maybe)

Hello Wildflowers!

Welcome to another post about Men and the City and my constant battle in the dating game. For those of you who are new to this segment let me catch you up – I’m single and I’ve been dating for four years. Done. Moving on.

So a few weeks back my girlfriends and I were having one of our many discussions about men and how much they drive us up the wall. This particular discussion however was about how we sometimes read too much into mens signs on whether or not their into us. We agreed that us women sometimes make it more complicated than it really needs to be and that men are pretty straight forward with their intentions. We just like to analyze it more than we really should be which leaves us irritated in the end. During this discussion we oddly found it funny how we sometimes find ourselves watching He’s Just Not That Into You to not only give us a little recap about men and their signals, but to give us a little kick in the keister. Needless to say a few days later I found myself loafing on the couch with a giant bag of mini eggs and watching for the millionth time in my life He’s Just Not That Into You.

As I sat there watching all these love triangles happening and thinking how unrealistic most of these situations are, I began asking myself why I’m taking advice from these morons. That is until beautiful Justin Long spat out a line that finally made sense to me – “If a guy is treating you like shit he genuinely doesn’t give a shit. No exception!”

Immediately after hearing this line and picking up all the chocolate mini eggs that had fallen out of my mouth, I had messaged four of my guy friends to get their take on this. I was honestly hoping to hear YES just so I could finally have a wake-up call and move on from this, but to my surprise they all gave slightly different answers, with most leading to “yes and no” or “it’s a grey area.”

I’m sorry, what!?

Here is what they had to say…

Different people do things for different reasons so at the end of the day only things that matter are context and perspective. Yes we are morons. But I’d rather be a moron than crazy, you women are nuts. 

Depends…also it’s like a push and pull that he’s playing at that time. Some know they don’t have to chase the chase.

Sometimes we don’t know what we really want.

There is always exceptions, but you may perceive that he is treating you like shit when he may not realize that he is doing it. But I would say that 95% of the time if he treats you like shit, he doesn’t give a shit about you.

So essentially what I had gathered from all of their answers is that all men are different and we can’t just keep thinking they all follow the same formula when it comes to dating.  After hearing all this I literally just gave up on the race of men and refuse to play these games, but I also realized that a lot of the time it can be us too. I will take blame for that. With that being said though, we have to step back and asks ourselves what we are looking for. If a guy doesn’t realize he’s treating me the way that he is, such as answering me with one word answers or treating me like a queen one minute then the next nothing, but still wanting to communicate, than why am I sticking around? If I don’t like it and that is not what I vibe off in a guy than why am I wasting my time? And the answer is this – I hope that they will eventually snap out of it and realize my worth, but the truth is they never will.

So my final thought is this – “If a guy is treating you like shit he genuinely doesn’t give a shit. No exception!”

Moving on.

J

Men and the Online Dating Game

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Today I am starting a new segment on Gypsy Eyes, one that I would like to think I have extensive experience on (sadly) and have wanted to talk about for quite some time now. This new segment is called Men and the City and yes it is a spinoff from non other than our all time favourite go-to show to watch when we are feeling single AF – Sex and the City.

I had watched this entire series years ago when I was in university, an old friend had suggested for me to watch it and had informed me that it would shed some light on my current situation. At that time I hated the feeling of being single again and didn’t think I would ever find someone. I was already going on dates for several months at this point and nothing was happening. It was just one failed date after another, after another, after another. I got to a point where I was so exhausted and hated everything that was going on, until I had watched this show. I felt so empowered by these women and realized that life is all about heartbreaks and failures, but we pick ourselves up and learn from them. They made me feel that it is okay to be single, even in your thirties, just go and have fun with it. At the time I was only 22, so naturally I had to laugh at the thought that I was stressing over such a minor thing in my life that I was sure would work itself out. Well four years later I am still single and loving the time I have spent on my own, but recently I have found the need to start watching this series again, a pick-me-up as you will, seeing as I am now exhausted from this whole dating scene. It was this second time around of watching Miss Carrie Bradshaw that gave me this idea for my blog. I started comparing her notes on men to how they have changed today in the dating scene. This segment will comprise of her ideas, but revised on how I feel men have changed from twenty years ago. It will also include a few ideas of my own, ideas that have only surfaced a few years ago and wasn’t a thing in Carrie Bradshaw’s time.

This is where my first Men and the City post begins.

Just last weekend I found myself having a familiar conversation that I have had with several other girlfriends as of late. We were talking about the whole dating scene in how online dating has no longer become a thing. It just doesn’t exist the same way has it had years ago when Tinder and Bumble had first surfaced, becoming the go-to apps to landing any relationship or even just a date. We were finding ourselves going on dates left, right and centre. There was a time where I had dates lined up for a week. It was that simple to get a guy to agree with you to meet up for drinks and to possibly see where it could lead to. Today is a different story however, today we are now finding it a struggle just to get a guy to talk to us through these apps. It’s as if these apps have just become a game to them and nothing more. Have we all just got fed up with the online dating world and want to go back to the old ways of finding someone? Was Tinder, Bumble and OkCupid just a fad? Or have men been catfished one too many times that their trust with women through these apps have just vanished? These are the several questions my girlfriends and I have asked one another, wondering what has caused this world of dating to fade.

Let me put it in perspective for you, four years ago when I had begun this whole new online dating extravaganza, I was landing dates twice a week. Since being home from Australia, which was ten months ago,  I’ve only managed to go on three dates. Pathetic, right? But then I began logically thinking about it in the way that I may have changed over these past four years and my reasoning for being on these apps. For instance, years ago I was strictly on Tinder in the hopes to find a new piece of arm candy, but now I’m finding myself just wanting to meet new people and nothing more. So has my way in talking to these men changed due to my reasoning? We have now reached a point where we have stopped going on these apps because we are mentally exhausted trying to talk to these men. Bumble is by far the most irritating one of them all due to us women having to make the first move, but that isn’t what is really irritating about the whole thing. I’ve always appreciated the concept behind it because it really does make us think on our feet and spit something out witty within 24 hours, but when we do, we either don’t receive a response or the conversation dies within two seconds. So now my question is this, why swipe right in the first place when you clearly had no intention on having a conversation? You must know that we clearly have every intention on wanting to talk to you if we had matched, so why ignore us suddenly when we pull the trigger? This is where our whole theory comes in with men just seeing these online dating apps as a game. We firmly believe that it has just become something for them to do while they loaf on their couch scratching their dingle berries and binge watching Hot Wheels. I’ve managed to hold onto a few conversations, but once the anticipating question is asked to meet up for drinks I’m suddenly ignored, deleted and thrown into the bin with the rest of those who too have been silently rejected. This is not to say that us women have never done this as well, because we have. I mean I’ve thrown these men in the silent rejection bin several times, but for different reasons. Reasons including inappropriate gestures made towards me or responding with one word answers that leaves me with no choice but to throw them in the bin.

I have reached a point where I just think that online dating has possibly run its course and we are just merely looking for new ways to find someone. In todays society we eventually find ourselves at a standpoint with these new fads that come into play. They go just as quickly as they came. The only social media app that is still standing on any leg at this point is Instagram, because they are constantly reinventing themselves and keeping us social media whores on our toes. Maybe we have just gotten bored with the idea of swiping all the time and are in a desperate need of a bit of fresh air. I know I am.

So come on you crafty inventors out there, I am ready to see what you will throw at me next in this forever losing dating game. I am ready for you!

Cheers,

J

30 Things To Do Before You’re 30

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I know it has been awhile since I have last posted anything on Gypsy Eyes, but I have been having a quarter-life crisis sort of speak since ringing in the new year. The same crisis I found myself in two years ago before I jetted off to Australia thinking it was going to solve all of my problems. SPOILER ALERT – it didn’t. This time I have finally realized that I can’t just run away from my problems thinking everything will sort itself out. Grant it moving to Australia got me to where I am today and opened up a whole new chapter for me, but this time I have to sort it out and figure out a plan of action for where I want to head to next. Sometimes leaving is not always the answer, but that I will leave for another time, another post.

A little over a month ago I came across an article that listed 30 things to do before you’re 30 – things I had agreed with and others, well not so much, but I was amazed at how much I had already checked off that list. It made me feel really good about myself and that I realized that I had probably done more than what most people have in their lifetime. Reading this list finally shed some light on my current situation in that I should be proud in everything that I have accomplished up to this point. Yes I might not have my dream job yet or prince charming slung around my arms, but I’m taking it as a sign that those routes are not suppose to come into play for me just yet.

So with this I decided to create my own list of 30 THINGS TO DO BEFORE YOU’RE 30 – A list I encourage everyone to create because it will really give you a form of motivation and purpose to work towards!

1. Get a tattoo: CHECK – I have four in total and I don’t regret a single one of them. I mean a tattoo isn’t for everyone, but you also live once so why the hell not!?

2. Fall in love: CHECK – twice. It is the worst feeling in the world to fall in love then to only get heartbroken by someone who you thought was your everything, but we learn to pick ourselves up and move forward from it. If you can survive this, you can survive anything.

3. Start a pension: This I never really thought to put on my 30 checklist, but I would have to agree that it is a smart idea to get started early with this one. We are all going to have to retire at some point and spend our last dying years doing something we truly love doing.

4. Learn how to surf and/or ski: CHECK!!! I’m still determined to learn how to ski though, I am Canadian after all, it should be in my blood to want to do this!

5. Travel somewhere by yourself: CHECK X100000! I can’t stress this enough and I have been for years! Spend your twenties living on a dime and exploring new places. You have your entire thirties to start a family and work towards that dream job. I have traveled so much over these past ten years that I am still not satisfied. I have an entire list of places that I would love to see before I hit that 30 mark. GET ON IT!

6. Live in a house share: CHECK, CHECK, and CHECK! I have lived with six different people, all in different circumstances and it was the best years of my life, but also the worst.

7. Travel with your best friend: CHECK! I’ve already done this numerous times and it still doesn’t get old, I love it! The memories we have created together is timeless. She is the best travel buddy and we have an entire list of adventures we want to do together!

8. Buy something you’ve always wanted: Still trying to figure out what that is….

9. Learn a new language: This has always been on my list and I have started numerous times to learn Spanish, but have given up after a day of teaching myself. Take five!

10. Take a spontaneous trip for a weekend: CHECK! I’m still determined to do another one, but the last time I did this I booked a plane ticket to Chicago for the weekend to ring in 2016 – such an exhilarating feeling.

11. Tick something off your ‘bucket list’: CHECK CHECK CHECK CHECK AND CHECK AGAIN! This is probably by far one of the best feelings in the world when you get to do this and I got to do it twice in one year, all thanks to Australia.

12. Live in another city: CHECK – twice! Again, we all know how passionate I am about this, so GET ON IT! Most places you can only get a visa to live before you turn 30, so don’t miss an incredible opportunity to be doing something like this.

13. Conquer a fear: CHECK! I faced multiple spiders in Australia and conquered my fear of heights, well somewhat….

14. Take a road trip: This has been on my list for years now and I am still determined to accomplish this little number! My best friend and I have talked about renting a vintage 70’s Volkswagen van and driving all through California until we hit Las Vegas!

15. Be with someone who’s not your type: There are endless checks on this one for me, but yes I agree. Go do it and learn from it. You’d be amazed at what it is you truly do not want in a relationship.

16. Take steps towards the career you actually want: CHECK! After many years of horrible jobs and crying over my failed life, I have finally learned at what it is that I want to work towards. All thanks to completing the above list. Seriously.

17. See an idol live: CHECK! Splurge a little because their not going to be around forever….

18. Figure out your priorities: I’m still working on that sadly…I still have another four years though!

19. Spend quality time with your friends: YASSSSS!!!! This one took me awhile to learn after countless failed relationships, but your friends are the ones who are always going to be there for you. Don’t mess that up by thinking all you need in your life is man and leaving your friends behind in the dirt, because relationships don’t always last.

20. Get your drivers license: After 10 years I still do not have my drivers license and I’m totally starting to regret not getting it years ago, but it’s never too late to start! This one I am determined to get, only due to wanting to take that road trip with my girl or else it is not happening!

21. Let more things go:  Years ago during my Gap Year I got myself a tattoo that read “Keep Calm and Move Forward” – it was a reminder for me that it is okay to make mistakes and/or feel terrified to be doing something new, you’ve just got to keep pushing forward. This is my mantra in life and it is this mantra that has gotten me through some difficult times. I’m still learning how to let more things go, but this is definitely a must on this list.

22. Take risks: CHECK! Need I say more?

23. Pay off your credit card debt: This definitely will not be paid off by the time I’m 30, but you know what they say? Never say never!

24. Stay up all night in the city: Don’t know why, but I have always wanted to do this. I’m such an old soul that I’m always finding myself home before last call, it’s pathetic actually. I’ve heard it’s even harder once you hit that 30 mark, so needless to say yes this is happening!

25. Become an expert in something: Does wine count? If so, then CHECK!

26. Start looking after your skin: CHECK! I took this very seriously a few years back when my skin decided to have a plague outbreak. Do it now before it’s too late.

27. Finish writing my book: This is a slow project I’m working on, but I am determined to finish this number! If it’s not a book for you, then pick something you had always wanted to do or have already started but just haven’t gotten around to finishing it just yet.

28. Buy tickets to a weekend-long music festival: HALF CHECK on this one! I finally went to a music festival back in Vancouver, but it was only for the day! I have always wanted to do this, just seems like something my inner Gypsy Soul would enjoy!

29. Explore your own city: I’ve lived here my entire life and I am still yet to discover what this city has to offer! You’d be amazed at what hidden gems you could find.

30. Give yourself some credit: ALWAYS!!!!

Cheers,

J

The Definition of the “Dating” Game

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So I’ve been doing some thinking as of late when it comes to men. I mean grant it I’ve been trying to figure them out since I started this whole dating game four years ago and I’m still stumped by the whole thing. Over the course of these four years I have dated every type of guy you can possibly imagine. I have done it all and I’m still going. One question that stumps me still is what is considered “dating” today? After having binge watching Friends and my all time favourite, Sex and the City, dating has a completely different meaning today than it did 20 years ago. I love watching these shows because I appreciate how real they are. I love that they depict your average women out there who isn’t married and is always finding herself in the dating game. Grant it some episodes are way over the top, but the core idea of it is still there.

Now let me back up to my initial question – what is considered dating? Over the course of my dating history profile I always took dating as the definition of seeing someone over a period of time before being a full fledged couple. Meaning you could be dating more than one guy because you are not fully committed to them, yet. It’s an open playing field for both parties. It is almost like the Bachelor but all kept very hush hush. We never know who we are up against so we just play the game in the hopes that we win in the end. Spoiler alert – I am still waiting to receive my damn rose, but that is another story in itself.

My point is this, 20 years ago dating seemed to have had a whole different meaning. After some crafty note taking this is what I have gathered from the dating game of Rachel Greene and Carrie Bradshaw. After these women went on a first date with an eligible bachelor and both parties have agreed to continue going on this conquest they automatically slapped the dating title on their relationship with these men. In other words they are fully committed to each other and have a silent agreement that they will not test the waters sort of speak with anyone else until they have both reached the end of their game. When we hear the term dating today however, we process it as a full fledged couple, which is far from the truth. Now before I begin to confuse you more than I probably already have, dating has two different meanings today. One can say that they are dating as in their meeting new people and are still on the quest to find the one. Where the other meaning, sometimes referred to as seeing someone, is introducing that person as the one you are currently dating, but you two have not agreed to the full fledged couple agreement yet. Again, you are merely just testing the waters. I have also learned over my years of dating that men do not like using the term dating. They refuse on all accounts to use it because to them dating translates to an official couple, the last thing they want on their hands. So instead they resort to the term seeing because it has a less scarier meaning to them.

Again let me further explain my point on this – for years I have told people that I haven’t dated anyone since my last failed full pledged relationship which was four years ago. I’ve been going on dates and “seeing” men for weeks or months on end, but it never lead to anything more than just that. Now, if I were to consider the meaning of dating as it had 20 years ago than I have dated approximately 10 men over these past four years. To me that sounds a little more hopeful in my future endeavours with men than saying that I have dated no one. Let me clarify this though, I do not and will never regret the decision of ending things with men after so many weeks or months. I have stood by with all my decisions and it has made me stronger person for it. I know what I want and I won’t settle for anything just to prove to the world that I can be in a relationship. I am very much like Carrie Bradshaw – a writer, a fashion enthusiast and we both find ourselves fretting over our love life, but in the end we are determined that our time will come and we will receive that red rose one way or another.

So to this I leave you with this final thought – dating is defined in a way that you see it as. See it as a chapter in your life, not as a love story that has gone wrong. If you want to consider all past men that you have gone out with, regardless of the time frame, as dating, you are entitled to that. As for me, dating is just merely a game that I am constantly finding myself losing at, but managing to collect some memorable (and not to mention beyond humorous) stories along the way.

In other words I guess one can say that I am living and to me that is winning.

Cheers,

J

A Glimpse of 2017

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As this year is coming to a a close I want to think back on this joyous year and the lessons that I have learned from it. I never imagined that I would finally experience an amazing year filled with so many happy memories and life experiences. Lets just say that 2016 and 2015 were both emotionally stressful and disastrous years for me. Toxic relationships, emotionally abusive jobs, losing friends, sinking to rock bottom….well you get the idea. Those years were definitely not in my favour and I didn’t think I would ever see one, until this year.

To save you from reading my lengthy of a novel of a year I thought I would compress this into a list – a list that will forever have me smiling and hope to experience again some day. Maybe not in 2018, but one day I know I will and until than here it is, my 2017….

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Photo by Brigitte Tohm on Unsplash
  1. Rung in the New Year on a Fast Ferry boat in the Sydney Harbour – being able to be in 2017 before my friends and family felt pretty amazing
  2. Got promoted at a job that I didn’t think would ever happen, especially when on a short term visa
  3. Learned how to surf
  4. Made lifelong friends – too many to count
  5. Spent the first four months of 2017 basking in the sun, swimming in the cool ocean waters and enjoying those summer evening sunsets
  6. Spent the month of April traveling the east coast of Australia, these places included…
  7. Melbourne: enjoyed drinking their rich coffees, admiring their endless graffiti alleyways and digging their European like vibes
  8. Cairns: enjoyed exploring their humid rainforests, seeing insects bigger than my hand, swimming in warm lakes with habitant crocs and under freezing waterfalls, sliding down waterfall rocks and swimming against fast current waters. Best of all….. snorkelling in the Great Barrier Reef and forever smiling at the thought that I got to experience something truly beautiful
  9. Magnetic Island: enjoyed exploring the island by foot to seek out beautiful beaches and feeling the warm sand between my toes
  10. Finally held a koala – another item checked off my bucket list
  11. Airlie Beach and the Whitsundays: enjoyed spending a few days sailing around the Whitsundays with an amazing group of people. Our days were filled with snorkelling, sunbathing on deck, exploring the white sandy islands, paddle boarding at sunset, and forever sharing endless stories about our travels.
  12. Came face to face with a turtle while snorkelling the Whitsunday waters
  13. Agnes Water: enjoyed surfing the waters with some hottie Australians, attempted to ride a motorbike which ended miserably, but still kept me amused (somewhat) and hung with a bunch of rescued roos who will forever steal my heart
  14. Fraser Island: enjoyed spending a few days camping and exploring the island with yet another group of amazing people. Our days were filled with swimming crystal blue lakes, sitting in freezing champagne waters, tubing down a river, basking in the sun, jamming to tunes, admiring the starry nights, drinking to our hearts content and sharing endless stories of our travels
  15. Noosa: spent my days reading, learning of another ones past and admiring her strength, exploring the national parks, walking the beaches at sunset and fully appreciating of what I had got to experience over those past three weeks
  16. Brisbane – enjoyed my day exploring the city by foot and meeting up with old friends
  17. Spent the month of May traveling parts of South East Asia – Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand
  18. Ended my travels in Hong Kong with spending my days exploring their beautiful city, watching Dragon boat races on a yacht and forever admiring their culture
  19. Spent my summer in Toronto catching up with old friends and exploring new places
  20. Still living the single ass life and forever embracing it ❤

 

Cheers to 2017!

J

 

 

Favourite Street Styles

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I know it has been awhile since I have last shared with all of you my favourite street styles of the week! I am really trying to pick up my game here, but clearly I am slacking…..no surprise there really. I am slowly starting to come up with my New Years resolution list which includes being more active on Gypsy Eyes. Over the past few weeks I have saved several street styles that I have absolutely adored and have been obsessed with, but I have been so side tracked with a new job and everything else going on in my life that I haven’t been able to share these styles with you! Since there were so many to share with you and where to find those styles on the cheap, I thought I would only share my top three that I have so happened to rack up over these past few weeks.

STREET STYLE ONE – Adenorah in Cords and Furs

STREET STYLE TWO – Jacey DuprieJacey Duprie in Overalls and Classic Bell Sleeves

STREET STYLE THREE – Lydia in Oversized Sweater and Knee High Boots

For more of my favourite street styles check out my Pinterest page!

J

Inspiration Credits: Free People and Zara Canada
DISCLAIMER: I endeavour to always credit the correct original source of every image I use. If you think a credit may be incorrect, please contact me.

 

16 New Hits at Free People

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I know it has been awhile since I have last posted about the latest trends hitting our streets but I have been busy trying to find myself and figure out my career path these past few weeks (don’t worry you will all hear about it soon I’m sure).

I want to share with all of you my new favourite styles from FREE PEOPLE and how to rock them as your own! This is the brand that defines me and my very gypsy like soul and style!

1) Jumpsuits
One of the easiest styles to dress up or down, regardless of where you are going. Pair these jumpsuits with a baggy sweater, vintage rock tee, sheer lace long sleeve…the possibilities are endless!

2) Bell Sleeve Tops
I am absolutely in LOVE with this latest style that has graced us this year. I find it to be such a classic and elegant look regardless of how you decide to wear it. Dress it down with a pair of high waisted jeans or with one of the above jumpsuits. They also come in a wide range of colours!!!

3) Sweaters & Kimonos
Easy pairings with anything….jeans, dresses, tunics and not to mention an awesome way to wear a jumpsuit! Seriously, jumpsuits are the way to go.

4) Laces and Dresses
Need I say more about these looks? Super easy to dress up or down – thigh high boots, rocking sneakers…..you get the idea.

5) SHOES SHOES SHOES
Pair em with any of the above looks and you are slaying those streets as a walking gypsy goddess!

Happy Gypsy Soul Shopping!

J

 

Inspiration Credits: Free People
DISCLAIMER: I endeavour to always credit the correct original source of every image I use. If you think a credit may be incorrect, please contact me.

Christmas Parties & Sequins

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Tis’ the season for endless Christmas parties and everything sequins.

It is that time of year again where we find ourselves hitting the stores and discovering that new IT dress for the holidays. The time to start planning that big night out with your co-workers and getting extremely awkward after one too many drinks. Or throwing that extravagant Christmas party every year that leaves us promising to never do it again. As for me, seeing as I am still currently living that poor retail life where work Christmas parties just don’t exist in my world, I don’t have a legit excuse for forking over a dress. So with this I am currently having to live courageously through all of you and get excited for these must wear trends of the season! That is the one thing I love about Christmas parties (work related or not) is that it is a prime excuse to go over the top and leave your comfort zone. It is that time of year that you can wear something that you’d normally never find yourself wearing to work or even a night out with your girlfriends. It’s okay to be extra for that one night and jump into sequins, jumpsuits, sparkles, metallics, and anything that screams Christmas!

Happy  Shopping!

J

Inspiration Credits: Zara Canada, Free People, The Bay and Urban Outfitters
DISCLAIMER: I endeavour to always credit the correct original source of every image I use. If you think a credit may be incorrect, please contact me.

Christmas…Too Soon?

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Christmas is in the air and cold weather is upon us, but when is it time to start decorating our homes and indulging in never ending Mariah? This is the question that we ask ourselves every year, wondering if we should start following the trends that retail has begun to do. Over this past week I have had a few discussions with various people on when is it considered too early to start getting into the Christmas spirit. I remember growing up that getting into the idea of Christmas was not a thing until the first of December or until we were graced with the first snow fall of the season. The day after Halloween seemed lunatic at the time seeing as us children were still loathing over the idea of it being over. So when is it considered too early?

I think in todays society it has now become custom to span Christmas over a two month period as opposed to a month. Do we really love Christmas that much that we are finding ourselves wanting to celebrate it for longer? Ummm yes.

This year I am really psyched for Christmas and would love nothing more than to put up my decorations as of NOW, but for various reasons of course. First of all I was deprived of Christmas last year due to living the travellers life in Australia and spent it basking under the hot sun on the beautiful beaches of Manly. I’m not complaining at all because it was in fact amazing, but when you have spent your entire life spending Christmas in cold weather with a beautiful snowfall (well that has sort of shot out the window now, thanks global warming) it sort of feels weird spending it elsewhere. Last year was the first time in 25 years that I did not spend Christmas with my family. I’m not going to say it was horrible, but it definitely did not feel the same. Australians are not nearly as psyched up about Christmas as us North Americans are or even Europeans for that matter. Christmas decorations and music are very minimal over in Oz. I hated it. Christmas is just a day to them, nothing more. I mean can you blame them though, their Christmas holidays are in the dead of summer. Imagine celebrating Christmas in July…..you can’t because it’s hella weird and we’d refuse to do so. This year I want to make up for what I had missed out last year and soak in every minute and every second of Christmas, that is including putting up decorations early. I will say this though, I do draw the line at Christmas music and movies. THAT IS WAY TOO EARLY TO BEGIN THOSE FESTIVITIES and should not begin until the first of December. My father was already caught last week listening to the Christmas radio station and Christmas channel on TV…..he won’t admit it but he loves Christmas just as much as the rest of us.

So as I sit here mulling over the idea of Christmas and when it is considered too early to get into the spirit of it all I think that decision is each to their own. I mean if you begin to start celebrating Christmas before Halloween then you seriously need to start reconsidering your decision. As for me, Christmas will forever begin on the first of December, no matter how badly I want those decorations to go up.

Cheers to all us Christmas lovers and wishing December was here already!

J

 

Hallow Costumes

Hallow Wildflowers!

With October coming to an end and Halloween just around the corner it is that time of year again for us all to have a mini panic attack over what to wear for a pointless night out. I for one have never really been one for Halloween. I mean I’ve never disliked it as a kid, I absolutely loved it and always got excited to see what costume my mom had decided for me to be for that year. She had always decided on who I was to be, which I guess led me to not liking the idea of Halloween as I got older. I had always just left it in her hands and never stressed about it. More times than not, my mom always found herself handing me something that I or my sisters had previously worn in the past. Throughout my entire childhood my mom had only ever bought me two brand new costumes. Everything else in between was made up on the fly. The only year I remember ever putting any effort into my costume was my first year of high school. In that year I went to a private school for the first time so Halloween was sort of a big deal. It meant that you did not have to wear your boring uniform and have a little fun with your outfit. That year I went as Daphne from Scoopy Doo. I remember seeing this costume at one of your typical Halloween party stores and wanting to buy it so badly, but I couldn’t justify the price for it. So I took a little trip to Value Village and managed to score myself a vintage pink dress, a lime green tee that I later cut up to use as a neck scarf and head piece, and some stellar purple flats for cheap. I even went as far as dying my hair orange for this, it was amazing! I wish I had taken a picture of myself from that day because that was probably the only time I ever got psyched about a Halloween costume idea. The years that followed after I never could bring myself to get motivated again and put my heart into finding a really cool costume. I always found myself rummaging through my closet trying to find something that could easily work last minute. I almost have to laugh thinking back on some of my costume ideas over the years….

As one can obviously see, these costume ideas clearly came out of my closet with no thought given. I was never one for spending money unless I knew I was going to use that piece again. This year I am completely stumped on what I’m going to wear and have no idea what I can use in my closet to make up something on the fly.

If you are currently stuck in my given situation with wanting to spend little to no money, but still want to have that creative costume idea then fear no more! I want to share with all of you some creative Halloween costume ideas that won’t break the bank, but will leave you wearing these styles again after this dreadful “holiday”.

BELLE TODAY
Dressing up at a princess is easy, especially if you want to make it current. Grab a tiara from your nearest dollar store, buy an elegant piece dress that fits into the colour scheme of the princess of your choosing and BAM! I’d pick a Princess that you most resemble or a colour that you know you will find yourself wearing again.

 

MISS HARRY POTTER
Need more clothes for work, but don’t know how to go about it with also needing a costume for the office? This costume will do it. Buy yourself a classy black skirt, a simple white blouse (if you do not already have one hanging in your closet) and vintage round “glasses” to complete this Halloween look! The bonus part is, glasses are the on-going trend at the moment! Go crazy!

 

BABY DOLL
The little black lace dress is my favourite style of all! This typical style is amazing because it can work for several unique costume ideas, such as a baby doll, candy skull or Wednesday Adams. All you need is some creative makeup, hair in braids, and a look that reads “I hate Halloween, leave me alone.”

 

AUDREY HEPBURN – BREAKFAST AT TIFFANY’S
This style is probably the most iconic and classic one of all, but can work so well if done right. Again, all one would need is a simple black dress, some vintage looking like pearls, a tiara, black sunnies and a pair of long silk gloves from the dollar store. EASY!

 

LUCY VAN PELT – CHARLIE BROWN
We all love that iconic sassy cartoon character, especially when it comes to Lucy Van Pelt.  If you’ve got the sass than anything is possible. Grab yourself a vintage like blue denim dress, classic brogues, blue ankle socks and a football to complete this look!

 

Happy Costume Hunting!

J

Inspiration Credits: Zara Canada
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